In parshat Yayshev, we are told by Rashi that Joseph hung out with boys of Bilha and Zipah. The Ramban asks, why did they join in the other brothers to kill him if he would play with them. The Ramban suggests that they saw how everyone offered Joseph love. Jacob offered him love, Bilhad offered him love. All were jealous of the love and attention he got. I guess it went to his head because we know he started curling his hair and became a “clothes horse.”

The lesson is that too much of anything without limitations is no good. We can show too much affection, attention and love and if not properly presented it can be mis-understood. We all love our children tremendously. How we show that love determines what they do with it.